Ladies it's a new sickness sweeping across America...matter fact this phenomenon is sweeping the world. I know you're wondering what could it be...and am I suffering from it? Well I'm hoping and praying that you're not one of the many women that has succomb to the darkness. After a recent discussion with one of my closest friends I became sicken by the mindset of a large population of women.
Like all of my friends, I find myself to be a successful, beautiful, loving, God fearing woman. I have set goals in my life and what I have not accomplished it's only because I'm currently working on it and have not married. Because of how I have been raised and how I carry myself I find myself only looking for men that meet a certain standard. And yes this standard is pretty high. No it's not a million dollar salary, "banging" body, million dollar home, 5 cars, tall, etc. Instead it's a man that respects first himself, have a reverence for God, respects women, has a career (not a job), educated, handsome (in my eyes), hardworking, goal oriented, loving...and the list goes on. But I find that women are infected with the "SETTLING" syndrome....the "WELL AT LEAST I GOT SOMEBODY" illness....the "HE ALL I CAN FIND" mentality. And it just makes my skin crawl. Why do men have the pick of the bunch....and find the best women in the circle. But women don't uphold the same standards? Why do we settle for the drama and deadbeats. Why do women think that it's ok to date a man with no job, 4 kids by 10 different "baby mommas", no education, 40 years old working on a rap album, and still living with his momma!! Why do women that that it's our job to help them out and support them? I mean I know that everyone could use some help at some time...but your "man" (and i use that word loosely) coming to you for gas money...and your car everyday is just sorry. A man coming to you for lunch money...to take you out for lunch...now that's just sorry. You paying for your own gifts...that's just sorry. Women wake up because there is no excuse for a sorry man.
Next....women why do you think that it's ok to date a man for 5 years with the promise of a ring? What sense does that make. Now I understand if you were highschool sweethearts...or dated in college...I wouldn't expect you to be married. But 3 years after school and he's still working on somethings...and just trying to see if it's the right time or right thing to do? Sweety he DOESN'T want to marry you. And at this point he's just keeping you in the back pocket just in case he HAS to marry you. Yes he loves you...but he doesn't love you enough to marry you. Stop being mad about it. Either accept it or move on. Why do you think that he's the last man on Earth? Why are you settling for him and wasting time. Time is something that you will never get back. And you can't be mad at him when you turn 30 and you're not married and have no kids...dont curse him...don't call your girls crying about how he wasted your time because you wasted your time waiting for a man that you knew deep down didn't want to marry you in the first place. Stop using "love" as an excuse...stop thinking that the butterflys in your stomach is "The sign"...no you're probably hungry, or constipated, or have the stomach flu. Love is an emotion not the reason why you wasted your time in a deadend relationship. Love is intelligent not stupid...so IT'S YOUR FAULT!
I just feel the need to say this because I see it everyday and it just breaks my heart. I believe that women have so much power and we hand it over everyday. Now their is a difference between Biblically submiting yourself to your husband and playing the fool for a "man" that ain't even husband material. Women look yourself in the mirror and see how much you're worth in the eyes of God and then ask yourself do you value yourself the same. Ask yourself do you love yourself enough to wait until that man finds you. I mean it is his job to find you...not for you to find him. And don't think that every man that approaches you is "The One". If he's trying to be your man after the first 5 minutes you might wanna run...because he didn't even take the time to get to know the true you. Spend time with men and work on a friendship before you start looking at rings...and don't buy your own ring! Just take time and reflect on yourself to see who you really are and what you really want in a mate. And don't settle for anything less than that. Watch a man in all situations...anybody can bring their represenative to the table, wait for the real him. You can learn alot about a person if you just sit back and watch...don't talk....just wait and watch. Get rid of the ridiculous list that you made in highschool about your ideal man...you know the one that had the 6'8", pro-ball player, green eyes, black or blond hair, doctor, lawyer,...etc and replace that with things that would truely make you happy. Not to say that those things wouldn't...but you can find those things in an abusive man.
Ladies I'm just trying to find the cure to this disease.After a year in medical school I haven't found a book to give the solution but after reading the Bible a light bulb went off. I took the time to look at myself through the eyes of God and I almost shouted. I just sat back and said "Wow...how can God value me the way that he does and I don't take the time to do the same." So ladies I've found the cure....dive into the word of God. I mean just engulf yourself in it. When that loser calls you pick up the Bible and remember your value. And then smile. And then share the cure with a friend. We need to remind each other who we are and what we deserve. It's ok to be without a man...it's much better to be single than to have a loser draining your energy and strength...just wasting your time.
**This public annoucement has been brought to you by the future Dr. **
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